How to bring up the subject?

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How to bring up the subject?

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I wanted to know from you when you bring the subject in a new relationship. I am becoming very close to someone and wanted to gather your opinion. I have never tried sex since the onset of PSSD. Should I have the conversation before we are in bed or after trying (I may succeed, I just don't know 50/50)?

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Re: How to bring up the subject?

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catalunya wrote:
PZS1234 wrote:I wanted to know from you when you bring the subject in a new relationship. I am becoming very close to someone and wanted to gather your opinion. I have never tried sex since the onset of PSSD. Should I have the conversation before we are in bed or after trying (I may succeed, I just don't know 50/50)?

Thanks

PZS

i think if you are severely affected by sexual dysfunction then it's best to have that conversation before any sort of sexual relationship comes about. as you've never had sex since the onset of the sexual dysfunction, though, you may perform better in bed than you're anticipating.
I back this up. The first time I had sex, I was really scared...but Erections came much easier with a real girl than with porn. I really didn't have much problem keeping it up most of the time (one time I was 85-90%, but still was able to penetrate). I think that being able to touch/ smell a real girl really helped. Also, if it takes you a while to become aroused, spend some time...working on them first. It'll give you some more time, and may help you get in the mood. It helped me at least. Having viagra or another PDE-5 inhibitor may give you some extra confidence too. Best of luck! I feel your pain, man!
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Re: How to bring up the subject?

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Thank you Catalunya and Ghost for your replies!
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